Poster image of 《Anti-romance》 © Eulji Art Center

On Anti-Romantical Romance

Every romance always ends in anti-romance. Anti-romance arises as the result of romance. It signifies aversion, disgust, and cynicism toward romance, but in a stricter sense, it is a satire of romance. Romance is commonly understood as an ideal state of affection between a man and a woman, yet its origins lie in literature and fiction.


Installation view of 《Anti-romance》 © Eulji Art Center

Although it began as a narrative of strange events removed from everyday life, the fantastical and idealized narratives of romance eventually came to culminate in romantic love between men and women, and romance itself became an ideal of everyday life. Anti-romance emerges from the gap that opens between this ideal and the realities of relationships between men and women.

As the sentiment shifts from “Love Is All I Know” to “I Won’t Love Again,” cynicism and indifference toward love begin to take shape. Love is an emotion formed between two individuals with different subjectivities, a feeling that can only ever be subjective; yet under the name of “we,” it is bound together as one and subjected to a process of objectification. In this process, rupture may perhaps be inevitable.

As others to one another, man and woman may temporarily transcend their individuality through heightened emotion and become integrated into a single category called “we,” but that unity is accidental, temporary, and momentary. Anti-romance becomes the wound and resentment that arise when this unity breaks apart. Within such wounds, romance is denied and rejected.

Alain Badiou argues that, captivated by the feeling of what he calls the “ecstatic One,” we forget that love can only arise from the free will of two people; he emphasizes that love does not mean “placing the Same called love upon the altar of the Other.” Rather, under the condition that love is not the story of one person but an event of two, it becomes “an experience of the world, or an experience of a situation.”

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